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Main Early Baby Site websites
http://www.premature-baby-clothes-store.co.uk
http://www.cheekychumsonline.co.uk
Family Bereavement Site for Early Miscarriages,Micro Premature Babies,Early Babies and Stillborn Babies.
Our warmest welcome goes out to you and your family at this very distressing time.
Here are some helpful tips we recommend the extended family can to give to the parents in order to offer support, love, and patience and in aiding the parents to organize the funeral and come to terms with the death of their child.
Whats New for June 2009....
(All marketing /advertizing and sales phonecalls will be ignored on this new phone line due to the sensitive nature given just for grieving families.You may be holding up an important call.)
PREMATURE BABY CLOTHES FOR A LITTLE ONE BORN ASLEEP OR GENTLY
PASSING AWAY. YOU WILL NEED CLOTHES TO FIT
TO GIVE YOUR BABY DIGNITY AND HELP SETTLE BABY DOWN FOR A FINAL SLEEP CHEEKY CHUMS STOCK SUITABLE CLOTHES IN TINY SIZES.
FOR TEENY TINY LOSSES FROM 6 INCHES IN LENGTH.
New line By "Something Precious"
"Special occassion gowns for premature baby losses".
click on the gown picture below to see them.
PLUS NEW LINE...
"little angel memory bear cubs"....
This Beautiful soft keepsake angel baby bear cub can be treasured and or cuddled forever click on the bears below for a close up look.
Cheeky Chums are sensitive to the needs of families needing something suitable for a baby sadly passing away and needing something quick to dress baby in, no matter how small the early arrival is.
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Telephone your requirements through.
tel 01942 254259 or tel 0800 121 6424
we dont mind at all to try to cater for the family's need at such a distressing time.
New Baby Burial shrouds for premature babies and any babies over 30 days old suitable for the following faiths Christian,Jewish,Muslim,Buddist,Hindu,Sikh.
Something Precious baby burial clothes for the tinest of premature babies and early losses
New By Something Precious for the very earliest of stillborn and preterm deliveries. For Premature babies sadly passing away.Baby Burial Pouches,Delicate wrap style blanket for micro premature babies too small or delicate for dressing.The nurses can simply wrap baby up snuggly with one of these unique designed soft blanket pouches. made from cotton and cotton rich fabrics for a babys final sleep.tasteful designs with suitable trimmings to match.(Also know as Fetal demise pouches)
find lots of funeral directors information by clicking on this link
http://www.funeral.uk.com
http://www.childbereavement.org.uk/for_professionals/funeral_directors
http://www.personalfuneralceremonies.com/The-Tragic-Loss-of-a-Baby-or-a-Young-Child
Advice and how to deal with the legal arrangements of a baby passing away.In the UK.
The loss of a baby
Coping with grief.
After nursing an elderly parent with a terminal illness once the staff of a retirement home took over the care our time to visit was spent visiting and having quality time with our loved one.November 2008.I spent many days alone with my husband. During this time many family members offered support yet argued over the most trivial of things.We found being alone and having the time to gieve was of great significance.
September 2008.16th of this month I have just lost another member of my family. After a quick diagnosis of terminal gastric cancer within 12 weeks my family member passed away. Towards the end I was the one doing all the nursing and care plus there at the very end of such a traumatic experience.
I am at this moment coping with grief plus as a business owner still trying to carry on with running a business.
Don't be tempted to get back to normal straight away and clear things away at home. Don' t be forced into going back to work too soon.
feelings
As a family you will go through A mixed amount of emotions.Don't bottle up your feelings, this is a time when a family can grow even closer. offering your partner a shoulder to cry will help both partners become stronger as a couple and help to cope with grief. if you feel like crying do not be embarassed letting out all those built up tears it is better to cry than to hold back and become withdrawn.
You all may go off your food and not want to drink even.Do try to eat a little throughout the day. Especially if you are diabetic.Rest when you can so you can cope the next day.
Faith
I am very fortunate as I have my faith in God to trust.I rely on him also for comfort when I am on my own.Many people blame God for the death of a loved one.I would like to offer these words to help you in your personal circumstances." Not all men have faith". If you do have faith In God and His son jesus who died and 3 days later rose again.Plus who is now seated at the right hand of the father in heaven "Who by him do believe in God, that raised him up from the dead, and gave him glory; that your faith and HOPE might be in God."
Jesus is "the way" "the truth" and "the life" and left these words to comfort any one who believes in him"Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you REST." " Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find REST unto your souls".Article written by S Sudlow.
How you can help the Family at this time of grief
Extended family can include grandparents and best friends of the grieving parents.
Parents will be grieving and will feel numb and overwhelmed at the loss of a baby.
During the grieving process offer to help an hand with collecting other children from school, doing shopping, running errands answering phone calls.
Give plenty of cuddles but be patient if arguments happen, as the stress of it all can be unbearable to parents coping with the loss of an infant in particular.
One person needs to take care of the funeral but if the parents are not up to it a family member who is strong enough should take over this role.
Involve the parents every step of the way making sure their requirements are noted down and given to the relevant person. For example no flowers to be sent to the family or please send and money donations to the local hospital, special care baby unit.
When one person takes charge support them so the pressure is taken off the parents and make sure too many people do not have their say that causes even more arguments.
Let the parents have as much peace and quiet when they are home from the hospital as they can get. Take control over answering the door arranging flowers in vases etc but make sure cards are only opened by the parents when they feel up to it.
Do not be tempted to clear the baby’s room unless its at the parents consent . Its all part of the grieving process for parents, coming to terms with the fact that the baby is gone and will not be coming home and finally saying their goodbyes.
Finally take it easy on your self too if its you that carries a lot of the strain, try to relax and talk about your feelings with another adult family member. You need to be there for the family too ,so make sure you eat well, drink plenty and take plenty of rest.
How to tell children about a baby death. Depending on the parents religion.
It is also best coming from the parents in their own time.From personal experience and research it is always best to involve children from an early age.Many adults have stated years ago they were not allowed anywhere near a dead body or were traumatized due to lack of support from the family. So much so, death is a big fear in some adults dealing with a funeral later on years down the line.
Letting a child near to say goodbye to will help come to terms with death as a part of every day life. A few weeks a go I personally let my 3 year grandaughter lay a picture in my dad's coffin to say good bye wave then allowed to go to the funeral, we let some balloons up into the sky and the rest of the children 7 under 10 in total watched as the coffin went into the ground, her understanding of funerals now is not one of fear as she watched a programme on tv with a funeral and said "oh he's died now then they go to church then he's buried". Without any fear what so ever, and we are glad we did this as it shows in her attitude to the tv programme. my niece however (age 7 )was really close to her grandad and didnt want to see him in the coffin so we respected her wishes and let her shed her tears, later she watched the coffin go into the ground and realized it was a part of life and handled it really well.Now she is happy to take a walk with her Nana and place flowers on the grave so happily.
Telling children about dead ants and birds etc in the garden is a good way to break the ice saying oh no its not coming back now let’s bury it say goodbye be light hearted about it so children do not have to fear death. Flushing a dead goldfish down the toilet is not a good way to show children. Many children have had nightmares thinking they are coming back up every time they visit the toilet. If you must flush it away make sure children don’t know about it.
Some libraries have books on introducing children to death, so you could check them out.
More articles are on our main website dealing with a bereavement for families especially children visit www.cheekychumsonline.co.uk
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